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How To Return To Love After A Bitter Divorce

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It was during the 1980s when the rate of divorce was as high as 40% in the United States but has been declining ever since. As per National Survey of Family Growth, the probability of the first marriage lasting at least a decade was 68% for women and 70% for men during the years 2006 to 2010. It was estimated that this probability in 20 years would come down to 52% for women and 56% for men.
Given these stats, the future looks better when it comes to the love life of Americans. However, circumstances might change at any instance and may result in a bitter divorce so one must embrace the situation and shouldn’t let a setback make him turn away from life and the happiness which is brought about by love.

Be True to Yourself

During the divorce proceedings and even after them, a person may be filled with a lot of doubts pertaining to their decision. There is always an uncertainty in their mind that keeps bothering many people and it is “Should I have given it another try, I might have changed the situation.” All one needs to do is to listen to their heart before paying attention to what others are saying or what the lawyer has in their mind. If something feels right to your heart, go for it and if it doesn’t, give some time to yourself to ponder over it.

Give Time to Recover

A divorce may cause a person to be left emotionally devastated and unable to  recover from depression, as his future dreams, joy, and trust have been compromised. After losing someone you have loved so much, there are high chances that the person may no longer feel confident about finding a partner ever again. Some people have the tendency to make the past mistakes yet again and such individuals should seek help from friends or even professionals who will help them in avoiding ill-conceived second marriages.

Letting Go of the Past Bitterness

Life has different chapters and for some people, closing down this particular one doesn’t come easy. While divorce may trigger new possibilities of growth and development in someone’s life and personality, it may also bring about stagnation. If there are any unresolved feelings of anger or guilt, it would be hard for people to move forward without getting a proper closure. They need to understand that the world is a messy place and often times, you need to avoid trouble which isn’t worth your time.

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Heal Before Loving Again

You need to be completely out of the grieving condition before you try to find someone for yourself. Skipping the healing process and jumping into dating would would make you a bad date because that will damage the new relationship in the longer run. Resort to therapy, yoga, or reading for a wholesome process and make sure that you are at complete ease before finding someone else to love with all your heart. With a sound mind, you will be able to give more to the new relationship.

Looking for Love in the Right Places

If you feel good about yourself and are in a good position to finding love, there will be numerous ways at your disposal. The pressure of blind dates and single bars can be overwhelming for a divorced person re-entering the dating world. When it is unrewarding, the person may retreat immediately in their quest for love. Instead of just resorting to the dating app at all times, socialize with people and volunteer in different social events. The relief of communicating with people in person and not behind the screen can help in curbing the anxiety which you otherwise feel.

Seek Your True Happiness

It is high time that you make your own happiness your utmost priority. Focus on your true purpose in life and live in accordance with it because nothing else will be more rewarding than this. Discover your true passions and in doing so, you will also come across someone who will truly understand them. And when that special someone arrives in your life, don’t hesitate to let that person in.
The National Center for Health Statistics reveals that around 6.9 out of 1000 people in the population get married whereas 3.2 per 1000 get divorced. The rate of divorce is almost half as that of marriage which shows that more people are keeping their marriages. But even if it didn’t work out for you the first time, it doesn’t imply that you were at fault and shouldn’t be looking for a new partner in your life.

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